Good friendships don’t happen on accident.
You’re not alone if you never got the memo that navigating friendships as an adult is hard. Good news, you’ve come to the right place. I help you care for these cornerstone relationships so you can be a better friend and have better friendships.
I'm on a mission toput friendships back in the spotlight
it's never too late to start making new friendsWhile the thought of making new friends can feel like you’re back at the middle school lunch table, there’s an art and a science to making new friends that I’m here to share.
conflict with a friend isn't a bad thingMaybe you were taught that best friends don’t fight, but I want to flip the script and offer that conflict with a friend can actually be a sign of health. And if that scares you, I’m here to teach you the in’s and out’s of navigating conflict with your friends.
you deserve good, wholehearted friendshipsWe don’t believe in scarcity or fitting in around here. Showing up with your full, worthy self is a central tenet of strong and healthy friendships. I teach you how to connect to your self-worth so you can enjoy deep and satisfying friendships.
playTHE FRIENDSHIP DECK
Gather your friends new and old to play the Friendship Deck, a conversation game for friends who are craving more intimacy. This game features 62 questions with three levels to help you and your friends develop more meaningful connections, have more honest and vulnerable conversations, and enjoy long lasting and authentic friendships!
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I don’t know where we were sold this idea that friendships were supposed to be the easy relationships in your life and the hard things like hurt feelings, jealousy, envy, etc were only for romantic relationships. And if you’re here, you are probably becoming well versed that friendships can sometimes be places of great pain and hurt. I created the Friendship Deck from my years of working with clients all over the country to help normalize that friendships take work. For a garden to flourish, you have to nurture it and pay attention to it and dare I say - get your hands dirty! Same goes for friendships. The Friendship Deck is a gentle way to nurture your friendships, care for each other well, and grow your friendships so they are sustainable, long lasting, and life giving!
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As a therapist, I get to hear stories all day long. When it comes to talking about friendships, there’s this TENDER place that really believes if you’re not good at friendships, you must be really broken. But guess what, you talking about your friendships and the struggles you have in them is actually a sign of strength and growth. It means you care enough about these beautiful and sometimes complicated relationships enough to get support. The Friendship Deck is a gentle and fun and playful game that will get you and your friends TALKING deeply and curiously. You’ll walk away feeling so known by your friends and also like you really know them. Dare I call this deck, friendship magic? Grab a deck for you and your friends and find out!
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I’ve been a therapist all over the country and I noticed a common thread from the east coast to the west coast and that was that people were struggling with their friendships! I didn’t have any good resources to offer my clients about friendships so I pushed past my imposter syndrome, took things into my own hands and created The Friendship Deck. I wanted to offer friends something tangible they could bring into their friend groups and right away experience more closeness and depth with each other and be able to talk about the hard parts of friendship together. Grab a deck for your friends and watch your friendship life unfold in the most beautiful of ways. I know you’ll love it!
It’s possible toHave hard conversations with your friends, heal from past friendship wounds, and create more meaningful connections with your friends.
Free downloadThe Friendship Inventory:
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Free downloadThe Friend Risks:
3 Ways to deepen your friendships
Oh hi friend!
I’m Blake.
Resident Friend Educator and Licensed Therapist. I spend most of my days with incredible folks like you at my therapy practice, Fig Holistic Psychotherapy in Charlotte, North Carolina processing trauma, learning how to feel those feelings, and live with integrity and kindness. It’s such an honor and I truly love it.
Out of this work emerged a desire to study some of the most foundational and pivotal relationships that hardly get any time in the spotlight: our friendships. Study after study says that the best indicator of a life well lived are strong social connections. Yet we have so few resources on what it means to be a good friend to ourselves and others. I’m on a mission to change that.
Good friendships don’t happen overnight and to have those long lasting ones that stand the test of time - that takes effort. I’m here to offer resources, research, and gentle advice on how to navigate those sometimes tricky friendship dynamics so you can have a full and rich friendships.
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free downloadThe Friendship Inventory
Want the friendships you’ve always dreamed of? Deep conversations, fun outings, and a real sense of sisterhood? These 8 questions will guide you to get clear on the landscape of your current friendships, help you see what shifts and changes you might need to take, and get you to cast a vision for what you want the future to look like. Friendships take intentional effort and this is a great place to start!